I’ve Been in Perimenopause for 10 Years, Here’s the Menopause Support That Finally Helped Me

If you’re a woman in midlife feeling anxious, flat, tearful, or like you’re losing yourself, please know: you’re not alone, and there is support for you.

I’ve been in perimenopause for 10 years now. Yes, a full decade. I’m now 49, and I can feel I’m finally nearing the end (5 months no period and counting). But along the way, I experienced every symptom that many women are told to simply “push through.”

This blog is for any woman who needs menopause support, is searching for answers, or is crying in the bathroom wondering, What is happening to me?

It All Started With Sadness I Couldn’t Explain

My journey into perimenopause began with small signs:
irregular periods, brain fog, a few night sweats and sleepless nights, low moods,and crying for no reason.
I felt sad, disconnected, and flat. Whilst I knew that hormonal shifts could cause this level of emotional chaos, I didn’t think it would happen to ME!

I was going to the gym regularly, eating well, but the weight gain started and wouldn’t budge. I developed tinnitus for a short time, my motivation crashed, and I just didn’t feel like me anymore.

Then, during that already challenging phase, my husband passed away. The grief and high stress magnified everything. The emotional and physical stress overwhelmed my system, but I kept going.  

But I got through it, periods became more regular and symptoms vanished.

Then 49 Hit — and It All Came Flooding Back

Just when I thought I’d found balance, things spiraled again.

At 49, I started having:

• Sudden menopausal anxiety, especially around driving or heights
• Sleep problems and racing thoughts at night (keeping me awake in the early hours)
• Exhaustion, even after full nights of rest
• No motivation to work or exercise
• Isolation — I was happy to stay home, avoiding people
• Lack of Purpose, seriously questioning my career as a Menopause Practitioner.
• Periods spaced 5 months apart
• Hot flushes that disrupted my days and nights

I felt stuck, confused, and tired. And most of all, I didn’t recognise myself.

What Finally Helped? A Menopause Support Reset

I reached a point where I knew I couldn’t “push through” anymore.
So I did something simple, but powerful:
I booked myself into a quiet hotel room, just for me.

I didn’t try to fix myself right away, I just created space. I:

• Ran a long bath
• Watched Daytime TV without guilt
• Ate a bag of Chocolate again without guilt
• Journaled with honest questions: What do I want? What do I need?

And then I turned to the tools I know work for women in perimenopause and menopause:

My Midlife Hormone Reset Tools

Journalling – Honest reflection helped me reconnect with myself

EFT Tapping & Meditation – Calmed my nervous system and helped with anxiety

Checked my supplements – I’d run out of a few and was missing a few key nutrients

Homeopathic Remedies –

• Sepia helped with irritability and overwhelm, the burden of being a Woman, Mum, Grandmum, Housemaid, Entrepreneur 
• Pulsatilla helped ease my emotions, tears and sadness 

1. Herbs for Sleep – Like magnesium, and valerian
2. Rest Without Shame – No alarm clock, no guilt, just true rest
3. Opened Up to Loved Ones – I told my adult kids, my mum, and my close friends how I was really feeling

Within Days – I Felt More Like Myself Again

Once I gave myself grace and the right support, things shifted.

• I made a plan for meals and nourishing food 
• I diarised gentle workouts and walks 
• I added moments of joy and ease, reading, nature, quiet 
• I stopped expecting myself to function like I did at 30 
• I accepted where I was, and created a plan for where I wanted to go 

If You're Struggling Too, Please Know This:

You’re not lazy. You’re not broken.
You might just need proper perimenopause and menopause support.

Whether it’s anxiety, sadness, emotional overwhelm, exhaustion, lack of joy and purpose, or simply not feeling like yourself — it’s time we stopped normalising suffering in silence.